I’m working with a new tutoring client, and therefore starting at the beginning in training her to stay engaged with the math rather than getting frustrated or trying to read the answer from my reactions to her guesses. The other night, I came up with a new metaphor to help her with this as she was trying to calculate the area of a circle section. I can’t believe I never thought of it before, it’s so obvious.
[N is visibly struggling to unify the geometric and algebraic information. I love it, I feel like I can literally see her brain growing, but she’s getting frustrated.]
Me: You’re going to grow from this.
N [skeptical]: Really?
Me: Yeah. You’re going to figure this out, and then you’re going to understand that you already had everything you need to figure it out. Have you seen Star Wars?
N: No, but I know it.
Me: You’re Luke, this is Vader. You face Vader and then you become a Jedi.
[Long pause while N thinks about the problem, punctuated by occasional exchanges like, “if I divide the circle area by 
N: Oh! 360 divided by
[4 or 5 second pause]
N: Right?
[N has evidently been watching my face intently for the last 4 or 5 seconds, trying to get external confirmation of her insight. When it isn’t forthcoming, she begins to doubt.]
Me: The reason I’ve been looking out the window is so you won’t try to get a cue off of my face. [Stands up] I’m going to do the more radical version of this and get out of your visual field. [Starts to head out of the room.]
N: You’re not going to tell me if I’m right?
Me: You’re trying to get me to fight Vader for you.
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I love that! I’m definitely going to use that next time!
I usually say “It’s good for you, like eating broccoli” when my students complain that a problem is too hard. But I REALLY need to work on not showing the answer on my face.
I ❤ that analogy so much. Thank you for the clarity. Will be using it 😀
yes and yes and yes
thank you ben blum smith
To reinforce the point, did you cut off her hand? Is there a refund for that kind of thing?
Just found your blog today, and spend the past few [units of time]* really enjoying myself here. The response to Waiting for Superman? Great. The radio interview with Newton? Fantabulastic.
Anyway, psyched to have found this. My RSS feed just emailed me to say thanks.
* I don’t have a watch, so am not sure what exactly the unit of time was. But whatever it was, they were.
Thanks, Karim! I’ve been reading your exchanges in the comments at dy/dan for a while now. You have a generally excellent attitude, so I’m psyched you like what you found here.
It’s great stuff. You have the rare talent of being both expressively articulate and analytical, and it’s inspiring–not to mention quite humbling–to read. (Also, the no-nonsense-ness is refreshing). I look forward to keeping up.